What makes us feel & look young, regardless of our age. Is growing gracefully connected to the life force? Is sexy connected the fountain of youth?
Yesterday, I ran into a friend I haven’t seen in a couple of years. I was having dinner with another friend, when this friend who lives in the neighborhood was passing bye. The three of us know and like each other for many years, but somehow our paths didn’t cross recently, and time went by as it does, and it’s been a couple of years since we last were in touch. As we were sitting and catching up with great enthusiasm, I felt an elephant in the room. The elephant was the ‘loser voice’. Mine sounds like that – “Why haven’t you been in touch with him for all this time? Something must have been wrong. Who’s fault is it? It must be yours.” Of course in our conversation we never touched on that. We are nice and polite people, and there was no need to go digging for issues. We proceeded with a natural flow of spontaneity, and will probably see each other again soon. But after we parted I had to do some inner work, and acknowledge the ‘loser voice’, honor the loss of not being in touch with my friend, and then I could celebrate and love all the way. Bringing honor & respect to the feeling of loss – through the breath, connected me to the life force. Now, running into my friend actually feels graceful & sexy and authentic.
Loss is one of the most challenging & painful feelings. Losing health, a loved one, a friend, a pet, a house, a job or a dream. But it’s not only the loss itself that is painful. When loss triggers the shaming, condemning, and helpless voice of ‘I’m a loser’, it can turn the loss into unbearable suffering, that can rob us of the dignity & joy of being alive.
There is a a safe & scared place, right-inside-your-breath, of natural Love-of-life, of joy & calm, of kindness & compassion and of eternal youth. Whenever anything hurts you, or if anyone disturbs you, if you feel anxious or oppressed, miserable or depressed, you can go to this place, take comfort & get relief. Don’t allow anyone to disrespect your safe & sacred place, and never give up. But above all, honor it & celebrate it yourself. Being human you may forget and get stuck in calling yourself ‘a loser’ – when all you had was a loss, and feeling it – is enough. To get unstuck, you can ask the breath for help and open your heart. Find your way back to your safe & sacred place – the rainbow in your clouds, the fountain of youth, and love all the way.
Samuel Jakob Kirschner
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