I have a student who lost her husband less than a year ago. Her husband was struggling with cancer for a long time. He gave her many signals that he wanted to die at home and be left alone. However, after he died she got depressed and keeps obsessing about the same story: “It was my fault that he died. If I only called an ambulance and hospitalized him…” When I ask her “What would have happened then?” she says “I know, but I can’t stop obsessing about that”. “That” is the existential lie. The lie that keeps us miserable, oppressed, right and barely alive. It has many clinical names: PTSD, Complicated grief, Survivors guilt, depression. But from a compassionate-breath-perspective, this is a perpetuation of self-victimization triggered by stress. A wounded ego trying to prove that your loss is your fault, and that you should feel miserable and oppressed for the rest of your life, because your loss proves that you’re a guilty-loser and that there is no redemption for the loser.
“Each moment, life as it is – the only teacher. Being just this moment – compassion’s way.” You can transform misery & oppression to joy, oxygen & ease by offering your vulnerable truth (fear and hurt). Asking the breath for help and healing with an open heart. Now comes the million dollar question: “Regardless of your circumstances and story, can you choose feel joyful and at ease, just because you breathe?” Now, you would have no problem celebrating your sacredness. Remember that In the present moment and inside the breath, life Is good no matter what!
Samuel Jakob Kirschner