Take Comfort in Your friends… (but if that doesn’t work, take comfort in your breath – 🙂
I deal with this question on a a daily basis. The choice 2 breathe love & be at peace, or 2 hold the breath & be at war. Because what you breathe – you eventually become – 🙂
I made an appointment with a friend to go to lunch at 1:00pm. At around 12:20 I sent her a text from the gym and asked if we could meet at 1:30, willing 2 stick with 1:00 if it was inconvenient for her to change. Ten minutes later I received a text from her saying “I’m ready to leave now, are you ready? That is not very considerate.” My back went up when I read it, and I felt deflated. “Oh oh… this is going to be a bumpy ride” – I thought. But here I had a choice to make – to stay in the negative chatter that came up about how unfairly attacked & blamed I felt here… or 2 take care of myself. Staying in the negative chatter would make feel right but separate & alone. Taking care of myself – was b r e a t h i n g l o v e … connecting 2 the breath & having a heart 4 myself feeling like the victim.
It’s not easy to make that choice – when you’re all fired up to go into ego battle. But I have come to realize that its a lost battle, because there is a faulty & painful judgment here that “somebody must be wrong, and its definitely not me – :)”.
When you take care of yourself, b r e a t h l o v e & have a heart 4 your own vulnerability, you empower yourself to become whole again, and invite the other person to be whole 2. Two whole people, can discuss things in a friendly manner, tell the truth about their own vulnerability, have compassion for each other, and come to a harmonious understanding. No One is wrong. Everyone is doing their best under the circumstances, and there is no need 4 character assassination or an attack on the Being. Let’s remember we are, 2 beautiful souls enjoying each other. End of story – :).
Samuel Jakob Kirschner, Voice of the BREAZE